Love may forgive all infirmities and love still in spite of them:
but Love cannot cease to will their removal.
C.S.Lewis, The Problem of Pain
Volkov Yefim, October
It jars with me that suffering is talked about as a means of transformation. Much suffering is not transformative but debilitating, degrading and damaging. It can and does wreak destruction in families for generations. Suffering often just produces more suffering.
Although I rail at the damage done to people, I have seen the work of inner reflection producing transformation through suffering. I wonder if it is the suffering itself or our God given ability to face pain (through an act of His grace?) and allow it to turn into a new beginning. ‘Turning all things to good’ is indeed a divine ability. We all face pain and all have to dig deep to turn this to good, but I give myself leave to question the premise still. I have not faced a fraction of the kind of pain some people face and so leave this as a not totally answered question.
Finding deep grace
But for me, for today, I ask Jesus to give me this grace, to take the petty rejections, slights, disappointments I face today and recognise the hurt they give me. I take them to you for comfort, healing, transformation and the finding of the deep grace and freedom of forgiveness.